Tips On Dealing With Infertility When It Has Stolen Your Life.
What do you do when Infertility has stolen your life?
This blog post is completely raw and very vulnerable. I wanted to write a quick post about our trials and bring some insight regarding infertility. Things that I went through while dealing with infertility.
If you don’t have infertility chances are you know someone who does. 1 in 8 couples have it. How crazy is that? I know many couples that have struggled with infertility but not many people talk about it.
I get it, I understand why a lot of people grieve in silence. But it shouldn’t be that way, you don’t have to! I am super open to talk about our infertility journey over the years it has helped me grow in more ways than I can say. I still don’t understand completely why God gave me this trial.
The main reason I wanted to share our story is to let other people know it’s okay to feel broken, it’s okay to get jealous, it’s okay to be angry, and it’s okay to take a break from treatments if you have emotionally had enough.
After nearly 6 years of trying to have a baby, 2 failed IUI’s, 1 Infertility surgery that had no positive impact in the end, countless medications, we took a break. And it’s okay to not be okay. It’s okay to say I have had enough I can no longer continue with treatments at this time. Especially because I had family members and friends that were pregnant all around me.
Dealing with infertility and pregnant friends can be hard. It can cause so much pain.
I feel like over the years Infertility stole my life, it stole my happiness, and it stole my faith. My husband and I made the decision to stop letting infertility run our entire lives. It was all I thought about literally every single day, it consumed me. You shouldn’t think about something 24.7. It’s not healthy to let something completely control your life.
I told myself through out the years that I may never have my own child in this life, and I had to make peace with that.
I had to learn how to get through infertility.
And for me that was emotionally stepping back. Taking a break from everything that was causing me so much stress and heartache. Once I started actually doing that was the moment I felt free.
I told myself I am enough, being a wife is enough. Having a loving marriage with someone who adores me is enough! I was finally happy.
I am not saying giving up is the right option for everyone. But taking a break from treatments was the right decision for us. It has ultimately lead to a life where I wasn’t constantly stressed and heartbroken. That is no way to live.
I chose to not let infertility control my happiness anymore. I chose to take back my life. Because infertility depression is real and no one should have to go through it.
I chose to love my husband everyday with every fiber of my being because together we have an incredible life. I am not saying we will never go back down the road of trying to have our own baby, because God’s plan is always greater than mine. But it’s nice to emotional step back and just let go of everything that is making you sad.
So what do you do when infertility has stolen your life? What I did was take a step back to reevaluate things and choose to be happy every single day. Choose to live life with a grateful heart. Make that decision for you and your spouse. In end that’s what matters.
You don’t need to focus on infertility right now. It’s okay to step back.
Find something that you are passionate about and jump all in it will help you when dealing with infertility. There are so many things that I focus on because I am passionate about them. Home Decor, and Crafts are what I love to do so I found a way I can do that full time. Recently Tyson and I have found a passion for traveling and we are blessed that we get to travel the world and experience so many beautiful cultures and places.
If you are going through infertility you are not alone there are so many people dealing with infertility too. I love hearing from my readers and connecting with people. If you ever need a listening ear I am only an email away. You never know who is struggling with infertility it may even be your best friend.
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