9 Things To Help Get Through Infertility Grief.
Infertility is something I knew nothing about when I was first diagnosed. I didn’t know what it meant and I didn’t know how common it truly was. I want to share 9 things I wish I would have known before. These are things that would have made the infertility process easier to go through. These 9 tips will help you through infertility grief.
I want to give you hope with tips that helped me when all I could think was Infertility has made me bitter and sad.
I had no idea what it would mean for the rest of my life. Honestly I wish I would have had someone to ask all my questions to because I felt completely lost in the beginning. I asked myself why I couldn’t get pregnant and didn’t truly understand the answer for years. I tried month after month and it killed me to continue seeing those negative pregnancy tests.
Infertility grief is something that’s rarely talked about but I’ll share how you can get through it.
I want to share some of the things I wish I would have know about in the beginning of my infertility journey. Things that gave me infertility acceptance. Helped me understand why I couldn’t get pregnant and ultimately accept it for many years. For so many years I felt like it consumed it. Infertility was all I thought about 24.7. That was no way to live. It was a miserable existence at times.
And hopefully this infertility grief guide can help you with some questions that you have.
How do grieving people cope with infertility?
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- I wish I would have known that it’s okay to be scared. It’s okay to not understand what will happen in the future and to be afraid of the unknown. I tried so hard in the beginning to put on a brave face but it reality I was absolutely terrified of the chance that I may never be a mom. That was the scariest thing of it all. Never knowing if I would have a baby and make it through infertility and it’s okay to be scared.
- I wish I would have known how common infertility is! It’s unbelievable how many couples go through it. 1 in 8 couples struggle with infertility and I didn’t know that at the beginning. I thought I was the only person in the world who couldn’t get pregnant. You may feel that way as well. But that’s not true. If you feel comfortable talking about your infertility you will find out that people all around you struggle with infertility as well!
- Infertility isn’t your fault! I want you to know that more than anything it isn’t your fault. There are so many different reasons couples struggle with infertility and a lot of them are from things we have no control over. I believe it is just as much of a disease as anything else is. And deserves a treatment just like any other disease.
- There are so many different kinds of treatments and steps you can take towards your dream of being a parent. You don’t have to start right away with IVF or even IUI. You can take baby steps such as Letrozole or Clomid and timed ovulation tests. Take things slow at your own pace.
- Don’t be afraid to take a break if you are mentally done. I can’t tell you how many times over the past 7 years I took breaks from fertility treatments because it was too much to handle at that time. Infertility is hard and it’s okay to give up for a bit sometimes.
- Find a support group for infertility. You can look up on Facebook local infertility groups or contact your local fertility clinic. They can give you guidance on finding people in your area that are going through the same thing.
- Make sure you have a stress reliever that you do regularly. It can be some form of self care. That means it’s literally something that helps you take care of yourself. A bubble bath, meditation, working out, a massage, doing your favorite hobby, a small shopping day buying yourself that shirt you’ve been wanting forever. Something that makes you happy!
- Don’t be afraid to talk about infertility. It’s something I have always been open about I never was scared to tell people what I was going through. I wanted to share a connection with people by being honest and open about my journey. I have made so many friends and connections just by letting people know what I’ve experienced. It’s helps people understand they aren’t alone.
- Take care of yourself mentally this goes along with the one a few above stating it’s okay to take breaks. Taking care of yourself mentally means it going to a baby shower of a family member is too hard don’t go, if you can’t be around that neighbor who just had a baby don’t! Your mental state of happiness is what matters. You need to focus on yourself. It’s okay to say no.
Infertility grief is normal! It’s okay to not be okay.
I hope these tips helped you with grieving infertility.
These are all things that took me time to understand through out the years. I wanted to have control over everything happening in my life. But I couldn’t. I didn’t understand why I was given the trial of infertility but I knew that I had to keep going.
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