5 Lessons I Learned From Infertility.
When you are in the middle of infertility you don’t know how or why you were given this trial. You question everything and constantly ask why me?!
I know every single day I would think why me why am I the person who has to go through this?
It wasn’t until I had been struggling with infertility for a few years before I started to understand I was given this for a reason.
Infertility was something that I felt like it was my complete identity. Once I started to reflect on my life and what I was going through is when I realized and learned 5 lessons that helped me grow as a person and become better.
- Lesson #1 infertility taught me patience. Naturally I am not a patient person I am very into instant gratification. I like to have things now. So infertility was so hard for me for this reason. I had to be patient when I wasn’t in control of everything. I wasn’t in control most of the time and it wasn’t about my timing. That was a hard one to swallow.
- Lesson #2 infertility taught me I am more than my diagnosis. For so long I let infertility control me. It was all I thought about, it was all I talked about. It literally was my identity. Once I started realizing I am more than my infertility I felt so much better.
- Lesson #3 infertility taught me to build a strong marriage. I thought my marriage was strong when Tyson and I first started to try. But after the months that turned into years it started to tear us down. We took some time to focus on each other and build a stronger marriage. We started building our relationship again and became stronger than ever. Infertility could have broke us but we didn’t let it.
- Lesson #4 infertility taught me that other peoples lives aren’t mine. Now let me explain this one a bit further. It’s so hard to be happy when a family member or friend announces they are pregnant because there is a bit of jealousy. You are happy for them but heart broken for yourself. Now this lesson was one that I had to constantly remember what happens to someone else has nothing to do with you. Not everyone will go through the trials you go through. And the difficult things someone else goes through isn’t what you will face in your life.
- Lesson #5 infertility taught me that it’s okay to take a break from everything. I can’t tell you how many times I took a break in the 7 years of TTC. We stopped treatments all together many times because emotionally it can be too much to handle. It can destroy you mentally so if you want to stop it’s okay. There is nothing wrong with that.
I hope you enjoyed this blog post and it helps you learn some lessons that helped me along the way. Thanks for stopping by the blog today.
